Archive for July, 2012

Westboro Baptist Church Plans to Picket Sage Stallon’s Funeral

The idea of such an act is Anti-God, & Anti-Love. It lacks humanity, empathy and respect for this young man’s life. ABSOLUTELY SICKENING. If you don’t like his father you have a right to your feelings. But, DO NOT desecrate the right of his son to be laid to rest in peace. His life, like all life should be treated with dignity.

Westboro Baptist Church Plans To Picket Sage Stallone’s Funeral
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Members of the Westboro Baptist Church have been called to picket actor Sage Stallone’s funeral.

Posted by Dr. Leslie Seppinni on July 19, 2012|Category: Celebrity, Crisis, Education, Excuse Free Living, Family & Parenting, Family & Relationships, Grief & Loss, Life Coaching, Mental Health, Parenting, Politics, Religion, Stress, What the F...! 2 Comments »

The Death of Child is the Greatest Human Loss

I remember the first time I heard of Sly Stallone. I had just come from N.Y. to L.A.. My brother, Kevin took me to see Rocky I. I have seen it multiple times since then. At the time I was home sick for N.Y., so I kept a scrape book of Mr. Stallone, who reminded me of the neighborhood guys in Queens. I had such a crush.

Years later, My brother Darrin’s son, Anthony (my nephew) just a few weeks shy of his 3rd birthday would be killed in a car accident. His mother had been drinking and driving on a Sunday afternoon while my brother was at work. Instead, of securely fastened in his car seat. Anthony was in the front passenger seat with the window down. His mother had him hold a hot pizza on his lap and used a seat belt built made for an adult. As she sped around a center divider, the car rolled over and Anthony went out the window. If he had been in a car seat his head would have been protected and the doctors said he would have survived. It’s been 20 plus years since my nephew’s death. My brother grieves today as if it were yesterday.

The death of a child is the worst human emotional pain. Mr. Stallone is no stranger to the parental pain of having and raising children. His is child also a son diagnosed was diagnosed as Autistic and two out of his three daughters who were born with heart conditions requiring surgery as little ones (baby/toddler).

Those who lose their children regardless of their child’s age suffer for years in silence trying to go on with their lives. Just as my brother, Darrin. They may laugh and smile again but they will never be out of pain.

If you have a family member or friend never stop acknowledging them as parents on father’s day or mother’s day. Remind other family members to send a card, text, email or pick up the phone on important days to their child’s life. Give a hug on the memorial of the loss of their child or their child’s birthday. Offer to go and visit their child’s grave. Do something charitable no matter how small in their child’s name. Keep a framed picture up of their child.

No parent wants to feel their child has been forgotten no matter how many years pass. Even if they never speak of their loss these parents still know when someone speaks or behaves as if their child’s life had meaning. The greatest gift you can give a grieving parent is confirmation of remembrance and empathy for their feelings as a parent as they rebuild their lives for life.

These are a few of the life lessons my siblings and I have learned as coping strategies to always be there for our brother. When it comes to the children in our family we have come to an unspoken agreement. We put our subjective feelings of our parents, extended family and each other aside. That means putting the children and the role of parenting first and ahead of our own disputes, likes and dislikes of each other, and even during times when we are feuding or not speaking.

Trust me we are far from perfect. But, no matter whether or not we always like the brother who lost his child or his behavior his loss is also our loss and we will always remain supportive of him and his beautiful son our nephew, Little Mr. Sunshine.

There is no amount of money, fame or professional success that can heal the loss of a child. May Mr. Stallone and his son’s mother realize they and their family are not alone. God bless them all.

Posted by Dr. Leslie Seppinni on July 19, 2012|Category: Celebrity, Crisis, Education, Excuse Free Living, Family & Parenting, Family & Relationships, Grief & Loss, Health, Life Coaching, Mental Health, Self Help, Self Improvement, Stress 2 Comments »

Dialogue w/FB Friend RE: Post of The Ever-Ready Bunny Marriage

Lisa Asbell:
Let’s face it if we all did a better job of living by GOD’s standard, Things like would not happen! She is what she is. Loose. Loose. Loose. Kris Jenner loves the money and the kids laugh all the way to bank.

Dr. Leslie:
If we could all live up to our on standards that would be something. We’d have less unwanted children, bad marriages, STD’s and the like. But, we are animals first, humans next and then individuals with all kinds of experiences, behaviors and values. I don’t know her to judge her. After having seen so much in life due to my upbringing, my own life experiences, travel, career and listening to others if she’s “loose” it’s between her and “God”. Kris may not seem like an ideal mother to many but, no one needs to worry about her parenting accept her, her husband and her children. I have my own mother to think about.

Dr. Leslie:
I will say this about Kris Kardashian, (notice I didn’t say “Jenner” since she doesn’t appear to acknowledge that she is) she definitely has said and done a somethings I shake my head and think, “What is she doing?”. At the same time she has raised six (6) biological children and not one is on drugs & alcohol, homeless, unwilling to work, in and out of jail, harmed a child or accused of domestic violence, and none have spouses who are deadbeats. That is hard to do under any parenting circumstances rich or poor, black or white. I don’t have to like everything about a person or their sense of ethics to appreciate that there is good, gray and bad in all of us.

Posted by Dr. Leslie Seppinni on July 17, 2012|Category: Celebrity, Crisis, Excuse Free Living, Family & Relationships, Love & Relationships, Uncategorized 7 Comments »

End it Already! The Ever-Ready Bunny Marriage

This is not a story I usually comment on but it just won’t go away and the link is below that inspired me to comment after reading some of what others had to say:

Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries both should take a lesson from Katie Holmes & Tom Cruise. Shut up and end it. Reality t.v. is not real Kris. You got paid for your participation. I used to feel bad for you, Kris H. I thought you were too young & lacked the life experience to understand that the Kardashians are like a pack of wolves. Nothing and no one gets in their way. I no longer think of you as a victim of that moving train. Your self created drama is BIG trying to keep yourself relevant in the media & to Kim. Kris you now appear desperate on multiple levels.

As far as Kim goes, I don’t think she’s a “wh…” I think she is a woman living her life except hers is on display. If you heard as I have, as a psychotherapist and a woman in the world, what many women have confided in me about their dating lives Kim fits right in the middle of the norm. This includes women of all types of different cultures, religions, and ages. If she were a guy many people would say, “He’s young 30, who cares?”

Even if she and Kanye were friends with benefits (which I have no knowledge that they were) off & on throughout the years (as people are speculating) it does not mean she cheated on Kris H. when she married him. One does not automatically follow the other. Kim is irrelevant to my life I’m not a fan one way or another I am simply pointing this out for the many single women out there who get unfairly portrayed as sluts & Ho’s for living their life trying to find the “one”.

Women need to be allowed to make mistakes, live their lives to the best of their belief system without the hardship of judgement. Trust me life will keep bringing the lessons we all need to learn back up until we get them or we suffer the consequences of them.

Kim Kardashian’s Kanye Romance Faces Heavy Legal Drama
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But who´s surprised? Cuz it seems like Kris Humphries´ legal team will try anything to convince the judge his marriage with Kim Kardashian was a shammy set-up. But we´re…

Posted by Dr. Leslie Seppinni on July 17, 2012|Category: Uncategorized No Comments »